Diary 003: New Year, Whole Me
You’re drowning right now, life is hitting you in every single way possible. You have your mask on, primped and ready for the new year. However, your support system doesn’t recognize the signs, so you question their loyalty, you feel that you can’t ask for help cause that will make you appear “weak”. You wear this beautifully painted mask on a daily basis that sometimes you forget who you really are….yea I’ve been there too.
So what can you do about it? Don’t want to be that vulnerable with your family, don’t trust friends enough to share that side of you, so you sit alone often lost in your thoughts, sometimes praying, hoping that God throws a blessing your way, or you see some sort of positive shift in your life.
Well let me be honest with you…it requires you to put in the work. Period. First things first, get help. We can’t do it all on our own. So what does that mean?
Well, Im going to always advocate for you to go to therapy. Think of your therapist as a non-biased, non-judgmental, person who will allow you to lay all of your issues on them, and not only will they listen they will help you uncover things you probably didn’t see yourself, help you organize, personalize, and successfully deal with the things that are causing you stress.
I know culturally, we are taught differently especially if you grew up in a Christian household. Like throwing yourself at the alter and drowning in holy oil, sweeping it under the rug, keeping your “negative” thoughts and feelings secret or to just block it out and keep moving like nothings wrong. You know being "strong" and "independent". At some point you have to say enough is enough and you are worth feeling whole. You are worth feeling happy. You are worth it all. You just have to believe that in yourself.
So how do you find that therapist you ask…no worries I got you.
There is a website called Psychology Today it is a database filled with therapist and psychiatrist who can assist you in whatever it is you need. All you have to do is put in where you live and it will find the closest therapist to you. You can put filters based off insurance, or specific issues you are dealing with (i.e. addiction, PTSD, mental illness, trauma, depression, divorce etc).
Oh so you don’t have insurance… no problem you can filter by self-pay. Just a little insider: look for LPC-interns they have more affordable rates some as low as $30 a session. They are able to do therapy work just as much as the fully licensed therapist. They are competent and are being guided by their fully licensed supervisor.
There are also resources available if you can’t afford therapy at all and need free services, if you are in need of that please email me and I can send some resources your way.
Lets start 2018 off making sure that we are all whole and happy! Remember who you are at your core. Trust your instincts. Believe in yourself when no one else will! Know that you are worth it! What ever the “it” is. Take risks. Reevaluate your tribe, this includes family and remove anyone that effects your peace. Remember if it costs you your peace it’s too expensive! Happy New Year people!
The Homegirl Therapist