The other night I was writing in my Today I Affirm journal by the lovely Alex Elle. I love her, I love affirmations, and I love my new guided journal! But the affirmation that came to me that night was:
​I don't have it all together, but I have it all.

If you are anything like me, there are times where you are absolutely all over the place, you are trying to figure out your next move, maintain your health, social life, work life, family life, all while remembering to love yourself, and take care of yourself. And sometimes that ish can get completely out of hand!

But I am here to tell you...No matter how you feel, you have all the necessary tools within you. You just have to activate them! Level up if you will. There is a light that is flickering waiting to turn into a full blown blaze. Its just up to you to discover who you are. And put the pieces of your puzzle together. One way to put the pieces together is to get rid of the pieces that you no longer need!
A lot of times, we try to make things fit, that don't even belong in the puzzle. And we waste our time on those pieces, when what we truly need to do is clean house, remove toxic relationships, toxic people, toxic behaviors, toxic thinking, and toxic energy! Throw that all out!

So how you say? No worries, ya homegirl got you!
So this is what I call a LIFE Evaluation: 

• What people and relationships can you remove from your life? Think of people who drain you, exhaust you mentally and emotionally? Who is withdrawing from your emotional bank, but haven't been depositing?
• What behaviors are you engaging in that have the potential or already risking your dreams and aspirations? Procrastination? Engaging in unnecessary drama? Entitlement? Anger? Bitterness? Jealousy? (I could go on...lol)
• How do you think about yourself? Do you have self-worth? Do you show yourself grace? Are you unkind to yourself? Do you mistreat yourself? Forgetting to take care of yourself?
• Lastly, what energy have you allowed to be around you? What vibes are you setting? What energy are you putting out? What tone do you set for your life? Where are you putting most of your energy? Is it productive?

So...

Drop a comment. Shoot me an email. Slllllllliiiiddddeeeee Into my DM's! See you around on the internets!

There I was minding my business, laying in bed, being nosy on the gram and boom....this tweet was posted on my time line, by Divorce Court Judge Lynn Toler! See, I watch her sometimes, I love court shows, don't get me started on People's Court, Judge Judy, and Hot Bench. Random: when I was younger I did not like Judge Judy, I thought she was mean as hell, but Chile at almost 32 years old, I get it! She don't have time for the nonsense...but I digress. 

So I read that tweet, and it just resonated with me. I mean, I was the person who felt like everything needed to be perfect in order for me to move. And I am learning now, especially as a full time entrepreneur, sometimes we can't wait until everything is "perfect"...because guess what, perfection really doesn't exist! So we sometimes have to gather up ALL we have, with some faith, and GO...FOR...IT!

I have had a dream to write a book since I was a teenager, matter of fact, I have written multiple chapters of different book ideas and never completed them. I have always been an avid readers, books make me super happy. Want to make me smile, take me to a book store!
But reading that tweet, its like girl just start! I don't know what I am waiting on, subconsciously I think I am waiting for life to become a little "smoother", I keep telling myself, once "this" gets in order, once I finish doing "this", then I will write the book. Truth is, its an excuse, and the timing may never be right. So guess what, I gotta gather what I got and MAKE A RUN FOR IT!

I've learned this: 
You will fail, it will happen to you eventually, but that fear shouldn't  keep you from going for your dreams. You have to take the risk! Because if you never try, you never jump, you never go for it, you will never know if you will succeed. And I am here to tell you...that's not life. 
There is no living in, constantly being fearful of failure, waiting until things are perfect, and not going for it. Growing up, especially in the African American community we were raised to be extremely cautious. almost to a fault. So that seed that was planted we gotta take up from the root! Because the influencers, role models, authors, and people we look up too, guess what...THEY WENT FOR IT!

So here's what I am challenging you to do;
Whatever you have been wanting to do and have been making excuses as why you can't: START! Starting could be researching similar businesses, creating a plan, a blue print if you will. Reaching out to influencers in the field that you are interested in and ask questions, seek mentorship, network and be connected.
I just want you to start. I tell my clients all the time: START BY STARTING. That's it. You may not get it right the first time, but that doesn't mean stop. That just means, you have to take a different route. 

YOU have purpose in life, you were designed and created for a reason, you just have to figure out what that is. If you are unsure ask yourself these questions:
What am I passionate about?
What am I good at?
What do I get excited about?
What's something I could see myself doing every single day?
What qualities do others see in me?
What does my heart tell me?
What does the little voice in the back of my head, keep pushing me towards?

If you are anything like me, something that keeps pulling at me, it is constantly in the back of my mind, it will not let me forget, is usually a sign that until I do it, it will always bother me, and for me, it has always led me closer to what I believe my purpose is. 

So...whose making a run for it all 2019! This is the year of Yes (in my Shonda Rhymes voice), the year of going for it, the year of being clear and intentional with our decisions, our goals, and who we are! 
So whose with me! Drop a comment! Shoot me an email. Slide in my DM's! See you around on the internets!